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A Little Flash of Flesh – Embarrassed

Posted by on Jul 9, 2013 in Kids, Parenting, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

A Little Flash of Flesh – Embarrassed

Every now and then a video or blog post pops up as a reminder to women everywhere that feeding our children, BREAST feeding our children, is nothing to be ashamed of.  I typically nod in agreement, give a little mental fist-pump to my sisters, and move on.  But this particular video was so powerful, making every argument more eloquently and convincingly than I’d ever heard before, well I couldn’t just move on.  I had to share it.

I breast fed both my children until they gave me the stiff-arm.  I didn’t know for certain how long I would stick it out, though I had made all sorts of rules for myself that I thought I might follow.  Rules like: until they are old enough to ask for it, cause it’d be weird for my child to say, “mommy, may I have another breast.”   Though now I have friends who stuck with it much longer than that, and I can confidently say they aren’t raising little perverts, desperate for that one last grope (I mean, that’s really the concern, if we’re being honest, isn’t it?).  Or rules like: I must breastfeed for at least a year, because that’s what the American Academy of Pediatrics suggests.  But I’d seen friends try and try and try to breastfeed, and ultimately give up and move to the bottle.  They spent (wasted) so much time agonizing over the long term repercussions of formula and flogging themselves emotionally for what they saw as their failure in motherhood.  When, in reality, their children have grown up to be beautiful, healthy little people who don’t seem any less certain in their mother’s love than my breast-fed children do.  I also followed rules to carefully covered myself in malls, parks and restaurants as I fed my children.  I wore clothes that made it a little easier to get access to my voluminous breasts with discretion.  And the two of us sat there sweating and uncomfortable, holding awkward positions, all for fear that some person might be offended by an unintended flash of breast.  And yet, even with all of my precautions, I still had this nagging feeling like I was doing something wrong.

That’s fucked up.  I was feeding my child, that is all.  Why would I feel so embarrassed about that?

Perhaps because everyone seems to have their opinions about breast-feeding, where and how it should be done, and for how long.  Unfortunately, the loudest of those opines seems to come from those who’ve never done it, or did it so long ago they still gripe about the bra-burning miscreants of their youth. Something about pregnancy and childbirth seems to open up the floodgates and make everyone think they’ve got a stake in your body.  Because it isn’t enough that for nearly 10 months our body was not ours.  For weeks, if not months, afterwards we are robbed of sleep and sanity, and left with a body that behaves nothing like it did before it carried a child.  And then many, many more months where our breasts (previously shared between ourselves and our spouses) no longer belong to anyone but that baby.   Isn’t that enough?  Do we really have to hand over our bodies to complete strangers with no vested interest in our’s, or our child’s, mental and physical well being?  I think not.

So today I hope you will all join me in saying thank you.  Thank you to women like Hollie McNish who performed this beautiful poem.  Thank you to all those women who unabashedly flash the masses for the briefest second before hiding their breast behind the soft, sweet head of their child.  And thank you to anyone who insists that there is nothing wrong, embarrassing, naughty, or forbidden about feeding our children in public.

H/T Huffpost here

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!

Posted by on May 12, 2013 in Smart Mouths | 0 comments

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!

To all my fellow mamma’z out there, I just want to say “Happy Motherz Day!”  Today you’ll open your children’s crafty little gifts and coo over the glue, glitter and effort they put into it.  You’ll eat breakfast (hopefully one not made by you) and you won’t do the dishes.  Perhaps you’ll take part (or all) of the day for yourself and do something you’ve been meaning/wanting to do.  Or maybe you’ll celebrate the day by spending it with your kids.  No matter what you do, just know that I salute you and all the heart and hard work you put into it.  The only downer of the day should be that that no matter how badass we think we are, we’ll never be as cool as this mom.

H/T The Week

Laugh of the Day: FOR THE TREKKIES

Posted by on May 7, 2013 in Funny Girl, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Laugh of the Day: FOR THE TREKKIES

I know I’ve mentioned I’m a nerd, and that nerds will rule the world, but in my humble opinion, Trek nerds are the best nerds.  So to my fellow Trek nerds, I gift you this beauty:  May you laugh long and prosper.

(HT to Nikki Maxwell)

Cyber Bullies Get Schooled

Posted by on Apr 16, 2013 in Kids, Parenting, Smart Mouths, Technology | 0 comments

Cyber Bullies Get Schooled

Cyber Bullies.  They are the anonymous, cowardly messengers of hate with unfettered access to their victims.  The thing is, as often as not, their victims have been Nerds.  Now, do you remember when I told you that nerds rule the friggin’ world?  Well they do.  Sometimes they’re just like us, toiling away in their job, making the gadgets that we can’t seem to live without.  But today, some of the Nerds are using their considerable brain power to not only soften the blow felt by the bullied, but to also to slow the steamroll of the bulliers.  It is beautiful in it’s simplicity, and breathtaking in its benevolence.  So take a gander and once again, I implore you, raise your children to be Nerds.

H/T to Upworthy

Love is…

Posted by on Mar 27, 2013 in Politics, Relationships, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Love is…

Every day we can make a choice to surround ourselves with love, gratitude and acceptance or embrace hate, fear, and aloneness.  It may not seem like a choice to those who are trapped  in the grips of fear and bigotry, but it is.  Ask ANY person who is living a truly joyful, joy filled, life, and they will tell you that they make this choice every day.   It really is just that simple.  Choose to be kind.  Choose to be grateful.  Choose to be compassionate, empathetic and thoughtful.  Choose to acknowledge your fears but not live by them.  Choose to be brave and have the courage to be loved and give love.  These are the only choices we can truly make, and who we fall in love with is not one of them.

Gangster Gardeners

Posted by on Mar 27, 2013 in Education, Environment, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Gangster Gardeners

This man looked at the unused space in front of his home and recognized that he could use it for the betterment of his community.  He didn’t worry about members of his community stealing from him, in fact he encouraged it.  This isn’t just about gardening.  It’s about looking at the world around us not just for problems, but for opportunities to provide solutions.   It is precisely mindsets like this one that can change our world for the better.  So watch and be inspired.

Laugh of the Day: Nina Conti

Posted by on Mar 23, 2013 in Funny Girl, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Laugh of the Day: Nina Conti

I run hot and cold on ventriloquist acts, but this one is just so stinkin’ clever I was immediately captivated.  Nina Conti’s act is hilarious and good clean fun that you can share with your kids.  Enjoy, just keep some tissues handy (since I laughed so hard I cried).

Just What This Momma Ordered

Posted by on Mar 22, 2013 in Girl Talk, Kids, Parenting, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Just What This Momma Ordered

A few months ago a friend of mine (you know who you are, girl), gave me a copy of Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly.  She talked about it being a life altering book as a mom and as a human being.  Now this friend of mine is not one for hyperbole, so I set that book on my bedside table and promised myself that I’d read it soon.  But I didn’t.  Low and behold, not a few days later this article started doing the rounds on the internet.  It knocked the wind out of me.  This one little article was like a healing salve placed on what was (at that moment in time) a very fragile mamma’s soul.  And I thought… Annie, you should read her book, it’s right there on your bedside table, just waiting for you.  But I didn’t.  Then this article appeared a couple days ago, and I once again feel the earth shifting under me only to find myself on slightly firmer ground.  Obviously, the only thing to do now is become a Brené Brown stalker, because I just want to sit in a room and listen to this woman talk. (don’t worry Brené, I’m totally harmless)  Fortunately for me (and probably Brené) there’s this TED talk to keep me satisfied until I can finally crack open that book tonight.  Oh… and if you want a little more BB, check her out on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday (first part here), part two airs this weekend.

Girl Power in 15 Minutes

Posted by on Mar 20, 2013 in Girl Talk, Kids, Parenting, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Girl Power in 15 Minutes

You know what’s so impressive about this fifteen year old?  No, it’s not that she’s already started her own fashion blog.  Nor is it that she also has a fully staffed teen magazine, who’s entier raison d’etre is to empower her peers.  It’s that she TOTALLY gets it.  She gets what it means to be a feminist more than most of the grown women I’ve ever known.  And she’s spreading the word so that perhaps our daughters, and even we might also someday get it.  So check it out.  It’s fifteen minutes that could actually help change the world if enough of us see it.

Thanks to Upworthy for bringing this to my attention, and Tavi Gevinson for being the change.

Porn Stars Get Naked

Posted by on Mar 12, 2013 in Girl Talk, Relationships, Smart Mouths | 0 comments

Porn Stars Get Naked

You didn’t think Porn Stars could expose any more of themselves, did you.  Neither did I until I came across this site.  Melissa Murphy is a makeup artist to the stars, the Porn Stars. Somehow she convinced these women to allow her to do before and after photos.  Why would she do this? Well the obvious answer is that she wants to show her talent, and the woman is SERIOUSLY talented.  She is an artist worthy of exhibition.  Perhaps not everyone would equate Melissa or Kevin Aucoin with O’Keefe or Dali, but the reality is they are the same, only their canvas is different.  The thing is, I can’t help wonder (hope?) whether she had a deeper motivation behind this project.  Because while I but applaud her talent, what I’m really applauding is the chance to see behind the curtain.  To see how very average these woman look without the magic of makeup.  Sure you may be jumping up and down squawking, “but. but. but. LOOOOOK!  She’s got breast implants and that one has collagen plumping her lips!! THAT is not average!”  Well of course it’s not, and I hope it never is, but isn’t it so much easier to see beyond the fantasy now?

So thank you Melissa Murphy.  Not only have you given me a lot less to feel insecure about, you’ve also taught me that all it takes is a little skill with my makeup brushes and even this housewife can reveal her inner porn star (insert husbands applauding here).